Gloria, in case you wondered, I am strong! I am invincible! I am WOMAN!!!!

I find that once law school gets going, I can’t keep up with my postings. It’s not that I am just too busy to post, but I have trouble keeping abreast with what’s going on in the world and so I lack inspiration…. But for your sake, dear reader, I will persevere…:)

Why do (we) women let men determine how we feel about ourselves??? Compare the number of crying drunk girls you’ve seen to crying drunk guys. I blame society, television, our mothers and our peers. Ladies, we spend too much time worrying over men, wondering why they don’t like us, trying to be beautiful so they will want us, crying because we feel rejected, getting back together with men who cheat on us because we need to feel wanted, trying to get their attention so we can feel pretty and wallowing because we feel lonely. If we took all that energy and focused it on kickin’ ass in our academic and professional pursuits, imagine how much more we could accomplish. Children’s fairy tales and Hollywood romance movies have told us that we can’t live happily ever after until we find our prince charming. Bullshit. There is no prince charming, and in the real world, marriage/finding your true love is not the end of the story. Have you ever wonder what happened to Cinderella and Snow White and Sleeping Beauty after they found their dream prince? Well, everything is honky dory for a few weeks and then life resumes as usual. Prince Charming drinks too much, he goes out with the boys and expected dinner on the table when he came home every night. He forgets Valentines Day and their anniversary. He forgets what the word foreplay means. Eventually, our “happy” heroine gets knocked up and while she’s fat and pregnant, Charming cheats on her with some bleach-blond, 18 year old undergrad. Acquiring the perfect man is not the end all be all. In fact, I am willing to go out on a limb and say that in the end, it won’t make you happy or make you feel complete. Those are things that you must do for yourself.

The moral of this story? We must stop allowing men to dictate how we feel about ourselves!!!! They should not have the power to make us feel pretty, or happy or sad.

Ladies, we have to concentrate on us. We have to look out for number one. A little egocentrism might not be such a bad thing after all… Guard your hearts, focus on your careers, goals, hopes and dreams…. Don’t let men hurt you – they aren’t worth your time or energy. Take care of yourself above all others and don’t worry about being nice or liked. Who fucking cares what someone else thinks about you. All that matters is what YOU think about YOU.